Parents: Stop Doing Your Child’s Homework!

Every parent wants to help their child out with their education, but most parents aren’t sure how to do so without becoming overbearing. Helping your child with school without taking on too active a role is difficult and delicate, but a necessary balance to maintain.

Here are 3 tips for helping your child with school without going too far.

1. Don’t Do Their Homework For Them!

Many parents feel a strong urge to help their child with school in any way they can. Unfortunately this often translates into parents doing their children’s homework for them. Some parents do all of their child’s work, while others only do work that their child is unable to complete due to time constraints. While your child will certainly appreciate the break from doing their work, neither of these strategies help your child in the long term.

Doing your child’s homework for them sets a terrible precedent. If you do it ‘just the once’ than what’s stopping you from doing it again another time? If you keep doing your child’s homework for them than when will you stop? When they reach middle school? When they reach high school? When they reach college?

It’s unfortunate that teachers tend to assign an escalating amount of homework these days, but that’s a trend which is unlikely to reverse anytime soon in either the classroom or in the workplace. If you want to really help your child than you will need to teach them the skills they’ll need to learn how to successfully complete and deal with a hefty workload. Teaching them time management techniques, how to prioritize their assignments, and how to complete work successfully and quickly is all you can really do.

2. Encourage their Social Life

While it’s important that your child performs well scholastically, it is just as important your child has an active and healthy social life. Encouraging your child to develop a social life will help them in a few different ways. First, a strong social circle is the best possible preventative measure you can take against bullying. Second, having a enjoyable social life is important when it comes to your child’s happiness. Third, if your child doesn’t develop social skills as early as possible they will have a hard time developing them later in life. Finally, academic development matters, but it isn’t a substitute for the “who you know” homeworkfactor of success in life.

There are a number of ways you can encourage your child to have an active and healthy social life. One of the best things you can do is discourage anti-social pursuits like letting your child sit alone and play video games by themselves at all times. Encouraging your child to join school groups and athletic teams that interest them is one of the best ways to help them develop their social skills.

Remember that every child functions differently in social situations. Just because your child is quiet or soft-spoken doesn’t mean that they don’t have a strong and supportive social circle, so don’t push them to be someone they’re not.

3. Take a Step Back!

The biggest mistake you can make as a child is pushing them to do too much. Everyone wants to be a good parent, but no one wants to be the kid of parent that pushes their child into so many activities and to such levels of achievement that their child completely burns out. Similarly no one wants to be the kind of parent that pushes their child to become a carbon copy of themselves.

It’s a delicate balance, but always remember to encourage- not push.

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